Nogizaka46 – Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru. Lyrics Meaning: The Journey to Self-Acceptance

Why do we spend so much time thinking about people we dislike? Nogizaka46’s song “Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru” explores this exact idea. It takes us on a journey that starts with blame and ends with a surprising discovery.

    The Story Inside “Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru”

    This song tells a story that’s super relatable. It’s about someone who feels alone and hurt, and their first instinct is to blame everyone else. But as they dig deeper, the real truth starts to come out.

    The Hateful List

    The song kicks off with a simple, almost therapeutic, exercise. The main character grabs a blank notebook to list all the people they hate and why. It feels like a way to get all that anger out onto paper.

    Masshiro na nooto no 1 peeji ni kaitemirunda
    On the first page of a pure white notebook, I try to write it down
    Ima ichiban kirai na hito no namae to sono riyuu wo…
    The name of the person I hate the most right now and the reason why…

    They plan to list the second most-hated person, then the third, and so on. But a funny thing happens.

    A Blank Page and a Big Question

    When they actually try to write the names down, their mind goes blank. They thought they had so many enemies, but they can barely think of a few. And the reasons? They suddenly seem so small and silly.

    Anna ni ita hazu no kirai na hito no namae ga
    The names of the people I was supposed to hate so much
    Suunin shika omoidasenai no wa naze nandarou?
    Why can I only remember a few of them?

    This is the turning point. The focus shifts from the outside world to their own feelings. They start questioning why they were so angry in the first place.

    The Real Culprit

    The character realizes that the loneliness, the misunderstandings, and the pain weren’t really caused by other people. They were pushing everyone away. They were the one making life difficult for themselves.

    Ikinikuku shiteru chouhonnin wa boku da (boku da)
    The real culprit making life hard to live is me (me)

    It’s a tough pill to swallow. Realizing you’re your own worst enemy is a huge moment of truth. They built walls to avoid getting hurt, but those walls just trapped them inside.

    The True Meaning of Nogizaka46’s Song

    At its heart, “Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru” is about self-reflection. It shows how easy it is to point fingers and blame the world for our problems. We think, “If only they were nicer” or “If only that didn’t happen.” But the song flips the script. It suggests that most of our unhappiness comes from how we see ourselves.

    A Lesson in Loving Yourself

    The biggest message here is about self-acceptance. Instead of hating others, the character learns that the person they disliked the most was actually themself. It’s a powerful realization that leads to a promise.

    Yatto wakattanda ichiban kirai na no wa jibun tte koto
    I finally get it, the one I hated the most was myself
    Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru
    I will come to love myself

    The song doesn’t say it’s easy. It’s a process. It’s about accepting where you are, stop worrying about what others think, and deciding to be kinder to yourself. That’s the first step to feeling better and finding true peace.

    That’s my take on this incredible song. But what about you? Did you get a different feeling from the story? Let me know what you think!

    Lyrics: "Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru" by Nogizaka46


    Nogizaka46 – Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru [Lyrics KANJI]


    真っ白なノートの1ページに書いてみるんだ
    今一番 嫌いな人の名前とその理由を・・・
    二番目に嫌いな人とその理由 三番目も・・・

    あんなにいたはずの嫌いな人の名前が
    数人しか思い出せないのはなぜなんだろう?
    嫌いな理由ってこんなにつまらないことだっけ・・・

    無視されたら無視してればいい
    だけど消えてしまった笑顔はどうする?
    その背中向けた世界は狭くなる

    友達なんかいらないって思ってたずっと(ずっと)
    許せない嘘や誤解が招いた孤独(孤独)
    生きにくくしてる張本人は僕だ(僕だ)
    居心地の悪い視線なんか気にしないで(気にしないで)
    今の場所 受け入れればいい そんなに嫌な人はいない
    やっとわかったんだ 一番嫌いなのは自分ってこと

    誰にも気づかれない胸の叫びや痛みを
    書き出したらなんて陳腐な言葉の羅列なんだ?
    死にたい理由ってこんな些細なことだったのか?

    泣きたいなら我慢しなくてもいい
    慰められなくたって涙は乾くよ
    強がりは余計な荷物になるだけだ

    夢なんか競い合って手にする幻想(幻想)
    何回も明日こそって期待した未来(未来)
    裏切っていたのは誰でもない僕だ(僕だ)
    輪の中に入ろうとしなかった意地のせいさ(せいさ)
    後になって冷静になれば そんなに嫌な日々だったのか
    傷つきたくなくてバリア張ってただけ ほっといてと
    辛いことがあったら 心に閉じ込めずに
    ノートの上 書いてごらん
    ハッとするよ(大したことない)
    箇条書きした不満 破り捨ててしまおう

    人生は近過ぎちゃ見えなくなる
    一歩引いて見てごらん

    友達なんかいらないって思ってたずっと(ずっと)
    許せない嘘や誤解が招いた孤独(孤独)
    生きにくくしてる張本人は僕だ(僕だ)
    居心地の悪い視線なんか気にしないで(気にしないで)
    今の場所 受け入れればいい
    そんなに嫌(いや)な人はいない
    やっとわかったんだ 一番嫌いなのは自分ってこと

    僕は僕を好きになる

    Nogizaka46 – Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru [Lyrics ROMAJI]


    Masshiro na nooto no 1 peeji ni kaite mirunda
    Ima ichiban kirai na hito no namae to sono riyuu wo…
    Nibanme ni kirai na hito to sono riyuu sanbanme mo…

    Anna ni ita hazu no kirai na hito no namae ga
    Suunin shika omoidasenai no wa naze nandarou?
    Kirai na riyuu tte konna ni tsumaranai koto dakke…

    Mushi saretara mushi shite reba ii
    Dakedo kiete shimatta egao wa dousuru?
    Sono senaka muketa sekai wa semakunaru

    Tomodachi nanka iranai tte omotteta zutto (zutto)
    Yurusenai uso ya gokai ga manaita kodoku (kodoku)
    Ikinikuku shiteru honnin wa boku da (boku da)
    Igokochi no warui shisen nanka ki ni shinaide (ki ni shinaide)
    Ima no basho ukeireba ii Sonnani iya na hito wa inai
    Yatto wakattanda Ichiban kirai na no wa jibun tte koto

    Dare ni mo kizukarenai mune no sakebi ya itami wo
    Kakidashitara nante chinpu na kotoba no raretsu nanda?
    Shinitai riyuu tte konna sasai na koto datta no ka?

    Nakitai nara gaman shinakute mo ii
    Nagusamerarenakutatte namida wa kawaku yo
    Tsuyogari wa yokei na nimotsu ni naru dake da

    Yume nanka kisoia tte te ni suru gensou (gensou)
    Nankai mo asu koso tte kitai shita mirai (mirai)
    Uragitte ita no wa dare demo nai boku da (boku da)
    Wa no naka ni hairou to shinakatta iji no sei sa (sei sa)
    Ato ni natte reisei ni nareba Sonnani iya na hibi datta no ka
    Kizutsukitakunakute baria hatteta dake Hottoite to
    Tsurai koto ga attara Kokoro ni tojikomezu ni
    Nooto no ue kaite goran
    Hatto suru yo (taishita koto nai)
    Kajou-gaki shita fuman yaburisutete shimaou

    Jinsei wa chikasugicha mienaku naru
    Ippo hiite mite goran

    Tomodachi nanka iranai tte omotteta zutto (zutto)
    Yurusenai uso ya gokai ga manaita kodoku (kodoku)
    Ikinikuku shiteru honnin wa boku da (boku da)
    Igokochi no warui shisen nanka ki ni shinaide (ki ni shinaide)
    Ima no basho ukeireba ii
    Sonnani iya na hito wa inai
    Yatto wakattanda Ichiban kirai na no wa jibun tte koto

    Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru

    Nogizaka46 – Boku wa boku wo suki ni naru [English translation]


    Try writing on the first blank page of a notebook:
    The name of the person you dislike the most right now, and the reason why…
    Then the second person you dislike and their reason, and the third too…

    Why is it that out of all the people you thought you disliked,
    You can only recall a few names?
    Were the reasons for disliking them really this trivial…?

    If someone ignores you, it’s okay to ignore them back.
    But what about the smiles that have disappeared?
    The world you turn your back on will only get smaller.

    I always thought I didn’t need friends (always).
    The loneliness that unforgivable lies and misunderstandings brought (loneliness).
    The one making life difficult is actually me (it’s me).
    Don’t worry about those uncomfortable stares (don’t worry about them).
    Just accept where you are right now. There aren’t really that many people you dislike.
    I finally understood that the person I dislike the most is myself.

    If I were to write down the cries and pains in my heart that no one notices,
    What a clichéd string of words they would be, right?
    Were the reasons for wanting to die really such trivial things?

    If you want to cry, you don’t have to hold it in.
    Even if no one comforts you, your tears will dry.
    Pretending to be strong just becomes extra baggage.

    Dreams are illusions we grasp by competing (illusions).
    The future I hoped for so many times, thinking “tomorrow for sure” (future).
    The one who betrayed it was none other than me (it’s me).
    It was because of my stubbornness not to try to join the circle (my stubbornness).
    Looking back calmly, were those days really that bad?
    I just put up a barrier because I didn’t want to get hurt, wishing to be left alone.
    If something tough happens, don’t keep it locked in your heart;
    Try writing it down in your notebook.
    You’ll be surprised (it’s not a big deal).
    Let’s tear up that list of complaints you wrote down.

    Life becomes invisible when you’re too close to it.
    Try taking a step back and looking.

    I always thought I didn’t need friends (always).
    The loneliness that unforgivable lies and misunderstandings brought (loneliness).
    The one making life difficult is actually me (it’s me).
    Don’t worry about those uncomfortable stares (don’t worry about them).
    Just accept where you are right now.
    There aren’t really that many people you dislike.
    I finally understood that the person I dislike the most is myself.

    I’m going to learn to like myself.

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